Pornography is something that many struggle with. Both men and women can get caught out by it’s tempting powers and drug like addiction. It’s something that church rarely mentions or deals with. However, at churchforstudents.com we want to voice our opinion, what God has to say and give some helpful tips of how you can remove it from your life once and for all.
The Porn stats…
* 89% of porn is created in the U.S.
* $2.84 billion in revenue was generated from U.S. porn sites in 2006
* $89/second is spent on porn
* 72% of porn viewers are men
* 260 new porn sites go online daily
What does God think about PORN…
God created man and women (Gen 1:27). He created them in His own image and what he saw was very good. God then blesses them, ‘Prosper! Reproduce! Fill Earth! Take Charge! (Gen 1:28). So right from the beginning God created man and woman to ‘REPRODUCE’ and to fill the earth.
Sex is a God created activity. It is to be enjoyed…’rejoice in the wife of your youth…Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love’ (Proverbs 5:18-19).
Sexual activity must remain in the context of marriage…
‘Because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband’ (1 Corinthians 7:2-3)
‘Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery’ (Hebrews 13:4)
So what does SEX and MARRIAGE have to do with PORN…
PORN is ‘SEX’. However, it is a corrupt and blurred perspective of true God intended sex between husband and wife. In other words, PORN is glorified prostitution. You might feel safe behind your computer screen, TV, DVD player. You might not be paying for the ‘pleasure’ of watching. But you are taking part, watching people who are often outside marriage, being paid to entertain themselves and ultimately entertain you so you come back for more. Which means more money for the industry.
It will effect your future marriage…
If you think that porn won’t effect your future marriage then you are wrong. If you think that marriage will instantly remove porn from your life then you are wrong. If you think a sneaky peek won’t harm you then you are also wrong. PORN can and will consume your life, control your character, the way you interact with people, girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands and wives. It will become a god in your life.
Basically watching PORN comes under three commands…
Command 1 – ‘You shall have no other gods before me’ (Exodus 20:3)
Command 2 – ‘You shall not commit adultery’ (Exodus 20:14)
Command 3 – ‘You shall not Covet’ (Exodus 20:17)
Adultery = Act of unfaithfulness in marriage that occurs when one of the marriage partners voluntarily engages in sexual intercourse with a person other than the marriage partner
Covet = is to wish to have the possessions of others
Does God hate me because I’m addicted/watching PORN…
‘Our bodies were not made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord. and the Lord cares about our bodies’ (1 Corinthians 6:13)
‘Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body’ (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
If God really hated you He would not have sent is one and only son (Jesus Christ) to die for you (John 3:16)? If God really hated you why does He offer forgiveness over and over again (Matthew 18:21-22)?
He loves to watch you grow and learn. He loves to see you be loved by another human. He loves to bless you endlessly. He loves you because of who you.
If we truly repent, turn the other direction, ask for forgiveness, seek His loving grace then we will see the PORN in our lives become ruins that have no control over our lives. Through repentance our bodies and mind will be made right again so that we might serve Him.
‘As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved’ (Ephesians 2:1-5)
How can we help you….
If you struggle with PORN then we are here to help you. Do not be ashamed as we have heard it all before. So here are a few things you can do:
- Be accountable – tell a christian friend (same sex) that you struggle with porn.
- Check out XXXChurch - they have some great resources and online software.
- Pastoral Team – our team are here to listen and give some structure to how you can get rid of PORN once and for all.
- Cluster & Cell Leaders – If you’re a leader please don’t let PORN get in the way of your leadership & walk with God. Tell us about your addiction and we will offer grace and help you lead to your full potential.
(Bible quotes – taken from NIV and Message)
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